My Favorite Podcasts and Why

I’ll admit it, I am a bit of a newbie to the world of podcasts.  I can’t remember what exactly got me started being interested in them, but I know I was a bit late to the game.  I do know that I started listening about two years ago, but I can’t for the life of me remember which one of my favorite was the first one.  

I have always enjoyed listening to audiobooks, and in this stage of life much prefer listening to reading.  I like that I can continue to move and do things, while I “read”.  I struggle to sit down and read a book these days, and much prefer to listen while accomplishing something else.  Entering the world of podcasts felt like the world of audio listening opened up even more for me.  With podcasts, the story doesn’t end.  A new episode airs regularly, and since I pick the podcast it is most likely on a topic that I enjoy.  Once I realized how mesmerizing, and perfect for my personality podcasts are, I quickly developed a list of my favorite go-to’s.

The Mom Hour

If you are a mom and haven’t discovered this podcast yet, I strongly recommend stopping what you are doing and go subscribe right now.  Meagan and Sarah are moms to kids ranging from young school aged to grown.  They are knowledgable in all phases of mommy hood, and hilarious to boot.  They have funny stories, advice and in-depth conversation on all things mom.  They also have regular guest spots and interviews with some truly remarkable women.  

Typically you will get a couple of episodes a week, some as quick as 20 minutes, and others lasting up to an hour. If you want more than that you can always follow The Mom Hour on Instagram and join the Listener Group on Facebook. 

Big Life Kids Podcast

This one is more about my kids than me, but I absolutely love the messages my children learn from this podcast.

The Big Life Kids Podcast is designed to pair with the Big Life Kids Journal.  If you are unfamiliar with the journal, I strongly recommend checking it out for your children.  My own are still a little young for it, but I use it regularly with my students at work.  Through self-reflection students learn how to be resilient, self-aware, and to develop a growth mindset.  

The podcast can be listened to in conjunction with the journal, or as a stand-alone.  Right now we are listening to it by itself, with the idea to do it with the journal when they are a little bit older.  We travel with Leo and Zara around the world in the Believemobile and listen as they work through challenges, and learn important lessons about character.  They also do a great job of incorporating real life listener stories to reinforce the lessons that they are trying to teach. 

Didn’t I Just Feed You

I first learned about this awesome podcast through Meagan and Sarah at The Mom Hour.  In Didn’t I Just Feed You professional chefs Meghan Splawn and Stacie Billis discuss real-life food challenges and victories with their families.  

Listening to these two professionals discuss the same challenges that the rest of us have regarding meal prep, kids and cooking for a family is refreshing.  Add in learning tips and tricks of the trade to make the every day food prep easier, and this podcast has become a life saver for me in many ways.  

Meghan and Stacie deliver it all with a sense of humor, and a recognition of reality vs. being in a professional kitchen.  It has become my go to dinner time podcast, as I hope it becomes yours as well.  

NPR Lifekit

If, as a parent, you have not yet subscribed to NPR Lifekit, you need to do so immediately. I was first introduced to this podcast through a co-worker, and I am incredibly thankful.  This is the instruction manual that you have been looking for, and each topic is presented in a fun and engaging manner.  

Every episode tackles a difficult topic in parenting, and walks you through how to handle it with evidence based information and experts on the topic.  In conjunction with the experts from Sesame Street, hosts Cory Turner and Anya Kamenetz keep it light while sharing real life stories from their parenting adventures.  

Recent episodes include How to Talk to Your Children About Sex, How to Help a Child Struggling With Anxiety, Kindness Can Be Taught and What Cookie Monster Taught Us About Self-Control.  Episodes are typically released once or twice a month, and are designed to help tackle difficult issues that today’s parents are facing on a daily basis. 

One Bills Live 

Now, this podcast is a complete curveball, and is a specific niche not relatable to everybody.  I am, however, including it, as my reasoning for listening to it is an important lesson to moms and working professionals.

I am a huge Buffalo Bills fan, and hosts Steve Tasker and John Murphy keep me updated on all things Buffalo Bills, with amazing guests and a sense of humor.  Episodes are released every week day, after the show airs on it’s mother radio station WGR 550.  After each episode I feel up to date with all things Buffalo Bills, and a deeper part of the Buffalo Bills community.  

I fully recognize that this is not podcast that is an interest to most working mom’s and mental health professionals.  The lesson here is that it’s important to find something that you enjoy just for you.  This podcast has nothing to do with my life as a mom, or my professional mental health career. This podcast is just for me, and it has become an important part of my self-care routine.  

Honorable Mention-Career Mom

I would be remiss not to include this brand new podcast in my list of favorites.  At the time of this writing host Jenny Elliott has five episodes under her belt, as she takes a deep dive into the issues that Working Mom’s face.  She addresses challenges and joys face on, and hosts conversations with other working mom’s on these topics.  She is off to a great start, and I can’t wait to see where she heads next!  You can find Jenny on Instagram @careermompodcast

Listening to a podcast can become a very low key way to practice self-care.  It does not require the same commitment level as a good book, can be listened to on the go, and you can catch up on your time.  By finding topics that are interesting and engaging to you, you can continue to grow and learn, even if it’s only on your commute to work every day!  Find these podcasts wherever you listen to your podcasts. Leave a comment to let me know what your favorite podcasts are, so I can expand my listening library!! 

5 Simple Self-Care Tips for Working Moms

No matter the age of your children being a mom is hard.  It can feel like a full-time job.  Working full time can also be challenging, and adding the two together can feel impossible on your best days.  I have all the respect in the world for Stay at Home mom’s, I couldn’t do what you do, but my experience as a working mom helped me understand how challenging it is for us to practice self-care. Below you will find simple tips on how you can take care of yourself while balancing this juggling act.

If you are a new mom, recognize that it will take some time for you to be able to take any major steps in your life towards self-care.  In that first year of life, I recommend baby steps and finding small things you can do to find balance. Maybe something as simple as committing to finding time to get outside for five minutes each day, or reading while you are nursing.  Each person’s situation is different, but it is very hard to commit to much of anything that the first year, and that’s okay.  

Drink Enough Water

This means having a water bottle that you love and making it a staple to have with you at all times.  If I have my water bottle next to me, I drink all day long.  If I forget my water bottle, I’m done for.  I have all of the intent in the world to drink water, but work is busy.  Before I know it I’ve gone the whole day without water, and I’m dying of thirst! Keep that water bottle next to you and drink, drink, drink! 

Take a Lunch

This is not easy in my profession, and I’m embarrassed to say that I’ve been working on my profession for ten years, and I only started making this a priority this year.  Even if it’s taking lunch while you pump, take the time to actually eat a meal.  Maybe even with colleagues that you enjoy. 

Find Even the Slightest Amount of Me Time

For me, with kids 13, 5 and 3, this has become some alone time on the weekends.  When the littlest was younger, it was my husband taking full charge when I needed to shower.  I would lock the door and turn the music up.  Even if I returned to pure chaos, I took some time to reset.

Get Outside

Even if that means taking the kids to the playground, or for a walk.  Leave the dirty dishes, forget the laundry for twenty minutes, and go outside.  It is good for your soul.


Sometimes this is the hardest one.  I am not always in a place where I can fit working out comfortably into my life.  I’m not saying find a way to add exercise, I know how overwhelming that can be.  I’m saying find small ways to move every day.  Take the stairs instead of the elevator.  Park in the farthest parking lot from work.  Take the long way around when going to a meeting.  I have been fortunate enough that my place of work has invested in a standing desk.  If this is an option for you, I strongly recommend it.  

Being a working mom can be incredibly hard, and overwhelming at times.  Follow these tips and you can take baby steps towards making your wellness a priority.  Trust me, it gets easier over time, but if you can only squeeze in baby steps this guide should help.  Mama, you are important, and you can do this!! 

Top Five Breastfeeding Tips for the New Mom

As a new mom, you have a lot on your plate.  Breastfeeding is one of many things that you have never experienced before.  It can be overwhelming, and nerve wracking to figure it all out.  The tips below can help guide you in the right direction when you are struggling, and provide you with amazing resources when you need support. 

1.) Have some patience.  It’s rare that it works perfectly the second your little one arrives.  Don’t freak out.  Have some patience, and don’t expect perfection.  Keep trying and you both will find your groove.  

2.) Ask for help.  If you feel like you aren’t finding your groove, there are a lot of resources available in person and online to provide help.

If you give birth in a hospital, there is most likely a Lactation Consultant on staff.  Take advantage of that while you are there, and ask as many questions as you can.  

When you head home, many Pediatrician’s offices also have Lactation Consultants on staff.  You can make an appointment for you, and they will spend time with you evaluating your babies techniques, and your positions, to determine if simple changes can help you.  

La Leche League meetings are held in cities and towns across the country.  These groups meet regularly to support all things breastfeeding.  You can find a meeting near you at

If these options don’t work for you, there are many online supports.  There is literally a Facebook group for any reason one could think of, and there is a plethora for breastfeeding.  Search for exactly what you are looking for, and you are sure to find it.  

Kelly Mom is also a great online resource.  They advertise as providing evidence based resources for breast feeding and parenting.  They offer articles and resources for almost anything you can think of, breast feeding related.  

3.) It will probably hurt.  But it shouldn’t hurt for long.  It may take a little while for you nipples to get used to so much attention,  but pain is typically a sign that things aren’t quite right.  Constant and consistent nipple cream can be helpful with chapping.  Alternating positions, and placing a rolled up washcloth under the breast, are two ways to switch it up a bit.  Even a small adjustment can prevent constant wear and tear on the same spot.  

Some women also have luck with using a nipple shield, which allows the nipple to heal up a bit.  Many lactation consultants recommend using them sparingly, though, because it can cause some confusion for the baby, and be hard to wean them off.  

It’s always best to consult with your doctor or a lactation consultant prior to using these techniques, as everybody’s experience is different, and I am not a medical professional. 

4.) Pump…but not yet.   Pumping can be a lifesaver, but it is a lot of work and can be overwhelming.  Unless medically necessary, new moms should hold off on pumping for at least a month.  In the beginning your primary goal is to bond and connect with your little one.  It takes your body a few weeks to settle into a consistent supply, and for you to figure out what works best for the two of you. 

The first month with your new little one can be extremely overwhelming, and adding figuring out how to pump to that could be too much.  Many new moms find it helpful to wait until they have established a bit of a routine before adding pumping to their repertoire.  

Once you are ready to pump, it can be a game changer.  It allows others to feed the baby, and for you to have a touch more flexibility in your schedule.  

It was recommended to me that I add a pump session in between two typical feedings to start with.  This allowed me to start building a freezer stash for when I returned to work.  This worked for me because I had an ample supply, but it was overwhelming. In these first few months it often felt like I was either nursing or pumping for most of the day, which was a challenge mentally.  It is not for the faint of heart,  but those early hard stages end quickly and typically a routine is established quicker than you expect.  

5.) Set up a nursing spot.  Prior to giving birth fill a basket with high fiber snacks, reading materials and a large water bottle.  A typical nursing session is anywhere from 10 to 45 minutes, but they can last for a couple of hours.  During a growth spurt babies can marathon nurse, which can feel like forever.  It’s important to stay hydrated, way more than pre-birth,  and to keep energized with healthy snacks.  Keeping this basket stocked will ensure that you have every thing you need no matter how long the baby decides to nurse.  

Breastfeeding is a commitment, and it takes a lot of strength and patience on behalf of mom and her support system.  Remember, your journey is different than any others, and your commitment to breastfeeding doesn’t have to look like anybody else’s.  If you have the supply and the patience, then go for full on breastfeeding for a year or more.  If you don’t, that’s okay too.  Do what feels best for you and your little one, but if that’s breastfeeding, use this guide to help you through it. 

All of the information in this piece is purely from my experience from breast feeding two babies for a year each.  It is not intended as medical advice, and should not replace the advice of a medical professional. 

Step Momming Through the Holidays

I remember thinking as I was growing up about my future family. I was going to be married by 28, and have two children (one boy and one girl) by the age of thirty. Sure it seemed rather fast, but 30 was officially old, so I couldn’t wait until after that. Plus, I was going to travel and go to school, so any earlier than 28 was just absurd.

It’s funny how when we actually reach that nasty “old” age of thirty how old it really isn’t. Looking back at my naïveté is also quite interesting, but minus some minor details I wasn’t too far off. I did get to travel (and hope to continue). I also earned my Masters Degree, which I am very proud of. Then married at 30 (gasp!) and had my first child at 31. I got my baby boy, and all I needed was the girl.

The part that wasn’t part of the plan was that I actually got my girl when I married her father. I think you would be hard pressed to find a young girl or boy who envisions becoming a step parent, especially given the poor reputation that step parents have received. Fortunately, I was blessed with a truly special step daughter. She is kind, caring, compassionate and thoughtful. We have developed a truly special relationship, and I feel as though she is my own. She treats me as a parent, but not her mother. I am her step mother and that in and of itself special role.

All of that being said, being a step mom during the holidays presents its own set of challenges. Like I said, she is my own and I will treat her that way forever. However, I met her when she was five, and I had her brother when she was 8. Holiday traditions were already kind of set. I slowly started my own with her, but now I have so many I want to start with her brother. Elf on the Shelf is a perfect example. We do not do one for many reasons, but one being I couldn’t figure out how to introduce it so late in the game for her. It felt fake, and I didn’t like that. We have started other traditions though, and so far everything seems to be receiving positive reviews, which is great.

Time is also a tricky thing during the holidays. My step daughter splits the holidays between both houses. There are pros and cons for that for her. For us, it can be rewarding and frustrating. I’m sure all families that split time feel the same way. It is great to spend the holidays with her, but disappointing to always be watching the clock. For her siblings (she has a sister at her moms) it means constantly waiting for her to come home. For example, if she is not here on Christmas morning, does that mean her brother has to wait to open his gifts until she gets here? That doesn’t seem fair to him, but having him open them without her doesn’t seem fair to her. We decided that when he gets older we are going to let him open his Santa gifts while he waits, and his other gifts when she gets here. This is a daily challenge, and there are so many more things we need to think about. We want her to feel welcome, as if this is her home, without neglecting her brothers needs at the same time. It is a very tricky balance.

Then there is the topic of scheduling. I am a planner through and through. My husband is not. It is hard enough trying to plan things with him, much less around and another entire family. I completely recognize that others do not plan ahead like I do, but it has been challenging for me to say the least. Luckily, everybody involved tries to be flexible, but it has forced me to let go of some of my control issues, which is good I suppose. That being said, however, this world will be a much better place when everybody agrees to just let me rule the world.

Lastly, my poor step daughter has two very different families. We are purposely frugal, and diy as much as we can. Not many people are like that, and for a kid who does not grow up consistently in that environment it can be confusing at the holidays. She may get the latest electronic at her other house, and a toy her dad made her at our house. Also, everybody has different financial abilities. How do you explain why Santa got one house twice as many gifts as the other house? On that note, everybody handles Santa differently too. I pretty much had a panic attack last year trying to figure out if stockings are supposed to be from Santa or parents. I still don’t know. If it were my kid I would make it up as I go, but with her I don’t know what pre-conceived notions she is coming in with. Luckily, so far so good. As far as I can tell she is still a Santa believer.

All in all, being a step mom has been wonderful. It’s like a hybrid of an aunt, teacher and parent. Some days I enjoy it thoroughly, and others I’m not sure what I got myself into. I suppose it’s not much different from parenting in general in that respect. It’s some what like watching a bad movie. You can often see the potential for things to happen, but often do not have the control or power to intercede. Luckily, I have a husband who trusts me implicitly, and values my opinions. As with anything, though, the holidays have a way of putting a magnifying glass on any difficulties we do have. We try to enter this time with flexibility and understanding. Advocating for our families needs is important, but understanding the importance of her other family is just as important. I’ve learned that every year will be different, and we will just have to make it up as we go, which often results in more fun anyway.

Merry Christmas all, best wishes to you and yours.

**Update! In July of 2017 our family welcomed a new baby, a little girl. This addition has completed our family, and we are truly thankful all of our beautiful children.

Crying it Out, With Wine


Until about two years ago I had never heard of “Crying it Out.” In fact, if I had to define it I would have gone back to sleepless post break up nights in my mid 20’s. Me, a bottle of wine, oatmeal creme cookies and my dog crying it out together. In fact, I distinctly remember an evening of crying it out in the middle of Colemans…ah but I digress.

Fast forward to (almost) 33 and crying it out has taken on an entirely different meaning. Crying it out essentially means listening to your baby scream bloody murder until he falls asleep. Sounds miserable, doesn’t it? Well it is, but in my world the costs out weigh the benefits. You see, since day one with my precious little man I have been teaching him how to “self soothe”. AKA put himself to sleep. Why? Definitely because I want him to be a strong, independent, confident young man. Yep that’s it.

Or not. The reality is I’m an incredibly selfish human being. Sleep is VERY important to me, and I need a lot of it. If my little man can fall asleep, or back to sleep by himself then I, in turn get more sleep. Trust me, everybody benefits when I get sleep. So I, selfishly, have taught him how to figure with it himself.  At least most of the time.

Luckily, it’s been pretty easy. He caught on quickly, and for most of his life hasn’t had any issues at night. He goes to bed without an issue, and can typically easily go back to sleep if he wakes up in the middle of the night. Up until last week at least.

Cue traveling, illness and teething and all of a sudden he got used to sharing a bed with mommy. CRAP! Now he NEEDS mommy to fall asleep, and certainly can not stay asleep without her. Good for him…bad for mommy. So the last three nights we have been working on getting back into his own bed, resulting in the use of the crying it out method.

Now, in my early 30’s crying it out is so much more unpleasant, but also very rewarding. Hearing your baby scream at the top of his lungs is heartbreaking, but seeing his smiling face at 6 am because he finally got a good nights sleep is amazing. Seeing my happy boy come back from a place of tantrums and sadness is wonderful. So yes, crying it out is controversial, and yes it can be difficult.  In my world though, the benefits are priceless.

So I’ll keep using it when needed. Just like in my mid twenties though, I’ll make sure I have the company of a bottle of wine, cookies and my dog to get me through.

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**Disclaimer. This post is for entertainment value only, and is not intended to provide parenting advice.

You Should Write a Book; Jumping in With Two Feet.

Everybody has that one friend, right? The one who has the most ridiculous stories, you wonder how they could possibly be true? Well, I’m that friend.  The stories of the crazy things that happen to me are endless, and more and more (after peeing their pants from laughter) my friends tell me I should write a book.  Well, how about a blog instead?

The thing is, I wonder if I subconsciously choose challenging situations, which then result in the crazy stories.  For example, I chose to marry a man with a daughter.  Step mom stories?  Yep, I’ve got them.  I also chose to be a School Counselor…in a Middle School.  Really? I’ve got middle school stories too.  How about adding a toddler to the mix? As I write this I have a 16 month old who is discovering his personality…and some days I hope he discovers another one.  You want to commiserate in toddler hood? I’ve got those stories too.

So join me as I navigate working a demanding full time job, step momming a pre-teen and momming a toddler.  I hope on your difficult days you find company, but more important I hope you laugh at my adventures.  This will be a new challenge for me, but like everything else I supposed I’ll jump in with two feet.